Personally I've never been one for the closure chat, mostly because when I'm done I'm done and at that point I don't want to hear anything about anything I just want to move on.
However I know a lot of people do really need these, especially when they've been together a long time and they want to know how they should go forward. But lets, be honest here, these chats usually happen because one of the two isn't ready to move on and is probably hoping that this chat will result in them 'having another go'.
Girls, I've been there. I was in a relationship where we had another go like 3 times over four years. This only happened because people are the best version of themselves when they're chasing you and you can be fooled they've change, when its not genuine change its just pursuit.
So first things first, ask yourself why you want this chat. Do you want to still be together? Are you angry at them and want answers for something they did? Do you just want to see them?
I'm going to deal a harsh truth here - if your answer is not 'No' to those questions you're probably still in love with that person and hoping this conversation will open up a line of communication where you can get back together. And if that's what you both want, then amazing this is a conversation you should have - but this isn't a closure conversation.
My honest advice for a genuine closure conversation - don't have one. There's nothing new you're going to hear that will make you feel better, there's nothing that someone can say that will give you genuine closure because closure doesn't come from someone else - it comes from you accepting things how they are and moving forward through it.
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