Ok girls, lets just dive in. Girls corner is not a place to be shy, worried what others think or fear being judged. Okay maybe sometimes I might laugh but trust me, its all love.
So one of my babes (lets call her Jane) popped the q that a lot of us girls ponder over when stalking our dudes Instagram following section - you're full on lying if you say you haven't done this... and BAM tits. TITS everywhere - you scroll past a shit tonne of insanely stunning instagram models that have the body of a Victoria Secret Model and the lips of Scarlett Johansson. Meanwhile, you're sat looking like a damn potato, eating left over pizza stalking your own boyfriends instagram. It makes your stomach drop a little bit and before you know it your picking yourself apart tits to toes and you've convinced yourself your a monstrosity. Sure, we've all done it - but why does it make us feel like this?
Lets first ask the question, why is he following them in the first place? To answer your question quite simply, I personally would not be interested in a bloke who was the type to be fawning over random women if he knew it made me feel uncomfortable. So ask yourself this... is he aware you feel like this? And if he is, and he tries to gaslight the fuck out of you 'stop being insecure' etc. SHOW HIM THE FUCKING DOOR. That is non-negotiable babe we don't do that. Or maybe he just followed them before you were together and never thought to unfollow them and your sat feeling like a potato for no reason whilst hes totally oblivious to anything - as per.
So, to sum it up, I don't think its ok. I don't think its okay that it makes you feel a type of way but I wouldn't rush in with the blame game - just talk it out. Tell them how you feel and if the relationship is any kind of relationship you deserve to be in, your boyfriend will listen and understand. You'll be able to talk about it and come up with something that works. It might be that he understands you're feeling a little self conscious and helps reassure you she aint shit compared to you, or you might realise your dating a total douche and this is your sign to ditch him.
Relationships are all different, and all boundaries are different, but in your relationship you get to set your boundaries and if it makes you feel like shit, its not ok. I'll end this by saying try not to compare yourself to instagram pictures. I know I know... we all know we shouldn't but we still do - for me personally to combat that I actually just unfollowed those accounts. After years of practising self love (not an innuendo you dirty bugger) I can look at beautiful women and be equally as impressed with her ass as my own.
Let the girls know how it goes Jane.
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